Compatibility vs The One

- We are very happy right now...

- So, is she "the one" then?

- Well... the one or not the one doesn't really matter... I guess, if you had at least lived once in what we call "a platonic love", a "true love with the supposed the one", then that's already a big achievement in your life... there are people living together for more than 20 years without knowing what "true love" or "the one" means... so yea, if you've experienced it once, that's already a very lucky thing...

- Mmm...

- I love her, I'm very happy with her, she's a great person... of course there are times when we can get pretty moody and bored with each other, but we are happy... we both have experienced really intense relationships before... violent ones... when we both loved someone so much we ended up suffocating each other... huge arguments, things flying at home... now it's like we've finally found each other with similar background and we don't need any of those things anymore... it's more like whether you can see yourself living with this person for the next 10 years or not. And I can see myself with her... it's an ongoing process... not just the present...

- Yea...

- It's like: would you choose to live with your "the one" who's not really compatible with you, or with "the most compatible one" when you can see your life with him/her for a really long time?

- But to me the one is the most compatible one, otherwise he wouldn't be the one... It's because he must be different and unique in such a way that makes me see and really feel he's the one or my truest love...

- Oh well...

- Where's the point in separating "the one" from "the most compatible one" then?